Här är ett nyhetsbrev som jag har sparat på min dator. Det är på engelska, men jag tror att det kan hjälpa. Det är skrivet av en "sexpedagog" eller vad man nu ska kalla honom. En mycket skicklig människa iallafall.
Här kommer det han rekommenderar:
1. Be direct and unapologetic for your
desires-- don't be afraid to talk about them or
to tell her what you want.
2. Take your pleasure from her body
without shame or embarrassment
3. Touch her with confidence and ease
like your old, favorite baseball glove...
never tentatively like she is grandma's expensive
china
4. Be 100% positive about her sexuality.
If you are negative or weird about it, she'll be
weird about it too. Guys blow this ALL THE TIME
without even knowing it.
5. AND be 0% negative about her
sexuality. Women respond to positive reinforcement
only-- let her know that you like the things she does
do, and don't mention the other things.
6. Know exactly what you are doing in
the bedroom. Learn enough about female sexual
response so that you can be confident that you
know exactly how to give her an orgasm, and be
comfortable with doing it.
7. If you have any insecurities about
your own performance (problems getting hard or
ejaculating too soon when you are nervous), then
deal with those issues in your life immediately.
8. Never be needy. Never make a woman
feel that your sexual validation or ego is at
stake in the bedroom. Getting her to open up
to you sexually should not be something that you
NEED for you to feel good about yourself sexually.
If she's not in the mood, just connect with her in
a different way... cuddle with a movie, give or
get a back-rub, take a walk holding hands. Don't
pretend you don't want sex, but don't put any pressure
on it either.
Believe it or not, most of these things
are behaviors that you can "fake it, 'til you
make it."
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